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Lōkahi Ola Method Workbook

A practical companion to Ashes Still Sing: A Marine’s Reckoning. The memoir tells the story. The workbook helps you practice.

Right now you can do three things: read a sample lesson, join the interest list, or talk to me about coaching.

What’s available today

• The Tuesday Check, free. A web version that runs in your browser, and a 2-page fillable PDF (letter size) from the form on that page. Take the Tuesday Check.
• The sample, free. Nine pages: Start Here, Lesson 6 (The Comparison Thief), and a seven-day check-in. Read it on this site, or download the 9-page fillable PDF (letter size). Read the sample or download the PDF.
• The full workbook. Not yet released. There is nothing to buy or order yet. Join the interest list for news.

What it is for

• Faithful daily habits. One habit in week one, attached to something you already do, with a small version for hard days. Try it for seven days and review on Day 8. The other two areas come later.
• Recognizing destructive patterns. Name the cue, the feeling, and what you usually do next, before you are in the middle of it.
• Preparing your environment. Change what is easy to begin and what is constantly cued, so you are not leaning on motivation.
• Returning after setbacks. A missed day is not a verdict. You do the small version and go on.

Reciprocal Efficacy

Seven areas. One life. A balancing act.

The Tuesday Check starts with Mind, Body, and Soul. Those three are how you train. The seven areas are where that training shows up in a life. Same frame, not two competing models.

• Physical
• Mental
• Spiritual
• Relational
• Financial
• Leadership
• Professional

How it is built

The working plan is sixteen lessons, one for each chapter of the memoir. Every lesson has the same shape:

1. A short story.
2. Scripture, read in context.
3. A few honest questions.
4. A written plan for one practice.
5. A plan for the obstacle you can already see.
6. Try the plan once.
7. A review and a prayer.

Every exercise tells you how long it takes, shows a completed example, and ends with the next step. The plan may change as lessons are written and tested.

The sample

The sample is nine pages: a one-page Start Here guide, one complete lesson called The Comparison Thief (seven pages), and a one-page, seven-day check-in, Day 1 through Day 7, that you can fill in or print. Names, scenes, and wording may change in the full workbook.

On a phone, you can type into the sample on this site. What you type stays on your device and is never sent. The PDF is fillable too, or you can print it.

What it stands on

The workbook is Christian. It rests on Scripture and depends on God’s grace and the Holy Spirit. The practices are a response to faith, not a way to earn it. The method in full explains how.

It offers discipleship, life skills, and coaching exercises. It is not medical care or therapy, and coaching supports professional care without replacing it.

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I will email you when there is news about the workbook, such as a new sample lesson or when it is ready. You can unsubscribe in any email.

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Where it fits

1. The memoir tells the story.About Ashes Still Sing, not yet published.
2. The workbook helps you practice.Not yet released. Start with the sample above.
3. Coaching gives personal guidance.The first 25 minutes are free. Book a free consultation.

Not sure where you are? The Tuesday Check takes ten minutes.

I write the Sunday letters on Substack, where you can read and reply. A 365-day calendar may someday grow from those Sunday lessons. It is not a product.

For people determined not to pass their damage forward.